Up until this point, life has probably been about taking caring of and making everyone else happy. You have been putting everything into making your marriage successful, and you have poured your energies into making a happy home for your children.
At some point, you’ve put your career on hold for the benefit of others, and you have had to make decisions that you didn’t serve your happiness. It is part and parcel of your existence, and that’s just the way it is for many women.
There’s no better time than now to take control of life and start doing more for yourself than now.
Doing More for Yourself
You’re at midlife, enthusiastic, flourishing, and ready to tackle life. It’s time to kiss guilt goodbye, and embrace what you love. It’s time to do something new, whether you want to learn a new language, how to play the piano, or you have always wanted to learn how to dance the waltz.
Your midyears are the perfect time to step outside your comfort zone and throw yourself into something new.
It’s time to embrace your confidence!
There’s nothing sexier than the confidence that life experience brings. While aging might sound scary, living in fear will hold you back from living a full life. So, keep moving forward, learn every day, and listen to your heart.
Don’t be afraid to be bold, present, brave, and fearless.
“Once you become fearless life becomes limitless.”
Hobbies Make the Woman
Whether your interests are in arts, sports, in the home, on the water, or in the gym, you should feel free to dive in headfirst. You can take up a hobby that allows you to socialize with others, or to enjoy time on your own. They can be as cheap or as expensive as you want them to be, and they will help shape your lifestyle, and connect you with likeminded people, and energize you.
When it comes to hobbies for women in midlife, there is no limit. From book clubs, painting, gardening, golfing, and sewing to swimming, dancing, or jazzercise, playing an instrument, and calligraphy, whatever your point of interest, there is a hobby that will bring out the best in you and give you new meaning.
Finding a hobby that you love and that provides you with social engagement is vital to your mental health and overall happiness, especially if you don’t get to experience a lot of socializing with your family and friends.
Letting Go of What Matters Less
Saying Goodbye to Judgements
Remember when you were young and you would get dressed thinking about what others may think of your outfit? Versus now, when chances are you aren’t too worried about what other people think of how you are dressed or what you are wearing, you’re concerned much more with whether you like it or how you feel in it. This is so liberating, a new mindset where you dress and how you look aims to satisfy you and promotes your confidence, instead of appealing to the masses.
Needing To Be Validated
You probably felt pressured to go out at the weekend, even when you weren’t interested, couldn’t afford it, or just didn’t want to. You were more willing to spend time with people that you didn’t care for, and chances are when someone disagreed with your point of view you wanted to argue until they agreed.
You wanted to hear those delicious words; “You’re right.” Now you’re at a point in your life where you realize the stress of those situations just isn’t worth your time.
None of those things adds value to your life, so if it isn’t adding value, what’s the point?
If it doesn’t contribute to harmony in your life, thus happiness, then kiss it goodbye. If that just happens to be a keen interest in the music of Phil Collins or Barry Manilow or avoiding family squabbles that only harm your peace of mind, then so be it – own it!
Expectations from Others
At this point in life, it becomes much less important what others want from you, and it becomes more important to satisfy your own needs and desires. You come to realize that life is short, and you want to live to its fullest!
The guilt trips from others that used to drive you seem comical now, as you tread on your own road to happy destiny, and leave the external influences fluttering in the wind.